I am a recovering “doer.” I have had trouble just “being.” At least now I am aware of that and when something comes up for me that I feel I need to “fix” I can say to myself: There I go again, wanting to “do” something or “fix” something about myself. But in truth I don’t need “fixing” and neither do you. We are okay. Sometimes it is just good to be aware, observe, and “sit” with feelings, rather than trying to “fix” them.
I often struggle with change. Many people do. The change that throws me into a “struggle” is usually something very simple, but for some reason it pushes emotional buttons for me. So something as simple as changing the way I think about something or seeing myself in a new role or writing a sentence describing something from a different point of view then my norm can send me into a struggle.
Change can cause me to be out of my comfort zone, have a fear of failure, or stir up scarcity thinking for me. The only way around it is just to sit with it and it will pass. I used to send myself into a frenzy of activity – so this “sitting” with feelings is new for me… and very powerful.
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Hello there:
Good for you, more power to you, but then I know that you have all the power that you need. Your statement about ‘being’ made me stop my blog skimming to send you this note. I empathize, I understand, and all the other right things to say.
Something that has helped me quite a bit is ‘mindfulness’ exercises, there are a number of them online; I purchased a set of CDs from the U of Mass. Med. Center, they have been a big help, and cost about $30.
Anyway, good luck: Roger